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Why the calendar might matter more than you think when it comes to managing difficult emotions in ENM relationships.
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Built for ENM
The First Ethical Non-Monogamy App
Ethical non-monogamy requires transparency, consent, and respect for boundaries. PYE is the only app built specifically for ENM, providing tools for coordination, communication, and relationship management.
ENM Needs Specialized Tools
Ethical non-monogamy requires careful coordination, transparent communication, and respect for boundaries. Traditional dating apps and calendar tools weren't built for ENM's unique needs and values.
Text Tag Kills the Fun
Multiple rounds of back-and-forth take hours every week, and contribute to missed connections
Scheduling Chaos
Finding free time is tough when you're juggling multiple schedules. Dropping the ball can harm your relationships
Data Leaks to Partners ... and Google
Sharing too many or too few details can break trust with partners. And no one really trusts Google with potentially compromising relationship data.
Open Relationships Should Be Fun, Not Frustrating
Built by the ENM community, for the ENM community. PYE understands the unique challenges of ethical non-monogamy and provides tools designed specifically for ENM practitioners.
Why ENM People Choose PYE
- Explicit consent tracking for every interaction
- Boundary setting and respect tools
- Privacy controls for different relationship dynamics
- Invitations you can drop right into your messaging apps, with real availability
Perfect for ENM
- Supports various ENM structures and styles
- Prevents scheduling conflicts across connections
- Respects individual boundaries and preferences
- Community-driven development and features
ENM-Specific Features
Every feature in PYE is designed with ethical non-monogamy in mind, from consent tracking to boundary management.
Smart Scheduling
Send proposals to multiple connections with priority options to maximize your available time and balance your dating life.
Consent Confirmation
All parties explicitly accept before a date is confirmed, preventing miscommunication and ensuring everyone is comfortable with the plans.
Privacy Controls
Granular settings for who can see your connections and date details, protecting your privacy across all your relationships.
Google Calendar Integration
Link multiple Google calendars and share them between partners with granular privacy controls to eliminate double-booking and scheduling conflicts.
Unified Calendar View
See all your connections in one comprehensive calendar view, making it easy to visualize your ENM dating schedule at a glance.
In-app Messaging
Keep all date-related communication with your various connections in one place instead of scattered across multiple text threads.
Enterprise Security
Your data is hosted in Canada with GDPR compliance, ensuring world-class privacy protection and data sovereignty for your relationships.
Ethical Non-Monogamy App FAQ
Common questions about using an app built for ENM.
How does PYE differ from Google Calendar for ENM?
Google Calendar shares everything with everyone — partners can see each other's events and details. PYE gives you granular privacy: each partner sees only what you choose to share. No accidental leaks, no oversharing. Plus consent tracking and boundary setting that Google Calendar was never designed for.
Why not use Doodle or Calendly for ENM scheduling?
Group planning tools like Doodle and Calendly are built for one-off meetings where everyone sees the same availability. They have no per-person privacy, no consent confirmation, and no way to keep partners' information separate. PYE is designed for ongoing romantic relationships where privacy between partners matters.
Is the ethical non-monogamy app free to use?
Yes. PYE offers a free tier so you can create your account, set up your calendar, and start coordinating with connections at no cost. Premium plans add more features for power users.
Ready to Practice ENM with Clarity?
Coordinate your connections with transparency, consent, and respect — the way ENM should be.